Talk to Anybody, At Any Time

Most people have been in this situation: At a social or business function and you end surrounded by people you have never met before. You may become uncomfortable with the circumstances because you don’t know how to start or carry on a conversation.Conversation

Successful people find themselves in these situations because they stretch themselves and put themselves in new places. That’s why their businesses grow; by meeting new people. If you want to be successful, the one thing you have to get down is knowing how to talk to anybody, anytime.  The good news?  It is easier than you think!

 There are two things for you NOT to do:

  1. Do NOT get nervous and excuse yourself. Leaving is missing an opportunity to make a new best friend or a close business associate. So Stick Around! 
  1. Do NOT start talking about yourself. Yes, you want to introduce yourself, but don’t launch into a half-hour speech about your deeds. Talking about yourself is not productive, and may even bore your listeners!

 That second point is crucial. You can’t be a selfish, arrogant person and be successful.  At least not to have actual well-rounded success, rather than just collecting a bunch of money.

 What you want to do is talk about the person you just met. Remember you don’t wish to talk about yourself – you want to talk about them! The key is to ask questions.  There are a few people you just will not be able to talk to; but for the most part, if you continue asking questions, you will be able to talk to anybody, anytime.

 There are three parts to this process: 

  1. Questions. 
  1. Connections. 
  1. Go where the connections lead you. 

You want to try to find common ground. What makes people afraid to talk to others is that they think they won’t have anything in common.  However, if you ask questions for a minute or two, you can always find common ground.  The worst that could happen is that you spend a couple minutes asking questions, only to find that you don’t have much in common. 

I’m going to do mock conversation to illustrate this process. 

 Please keep in mind the kinds of questions I would ask when I find a common ground, and then how I would move the conversation in that direction. 

Multiple conversation bubbles“Hi, I’m William Deihl. What is your name?” 

“Jon Doe.” 

“Well, Jon, what do you do for a living?” 

“I sell insurance.” (Possible Common ground here. Every person has insurance) 

“Oh yeah? What kind of insurance?” 

“I insure Oil rigs in the Atlantic ocean.” (Oops. Not common ground) 

“Wow. That’s must be interesting. Are you married, Jon?  Do you have kids?” (If yes, maybe Jon can show some pictures) 

“No, actually, I’m single.” (It’s still not looking good) 

“So, who do you know here?” 

“Well, nobody. I am the brother of the host’s bookkeeper. I’m in town for a week, and my brother had to make an appearance.” (Wrong direction here) 

“So where are you from?” 

“Chicago.” (Bingo, there it is. The common ground! Now let’s go in that direction) 

“Really? My dad and mom were from Chicago. Even though I didn’t live there, my mom and dad used to take me back to visit my relatives when I was growing up. It sure was a lot of fun. Did you live in the City, or the Suburbs?” 

“I grew up in the Suburbs.” 

“That’s where my relatives lived! 

Now just start asking questions about what they did growing up, how they liked it etc… 

If you get skilled enough at asking questions of others, you will certainly find common ground about which to talk.  Having things in common with someone is the foundation of all long and mutually beneficial relationship.  It’s one of the foundations of success! 

I have met a lot of new people over the years, and this is what I do. I am no better communicator than anybody else. It is just a proven way of getting a relationship off the ground with someone you have just met. 

Just remember: 

  1. Questions. 
  1. Connections. 
  1. Go where the connections lead you.

You Are What You Absorb

Contrary to popular belief, you are not what you eat.  You are what you absorb.  Not everything that hits your stomach gets used in your body, and not everything that that gets used in your body ever even hits your stomach.  In fact, you consume somewhere in the neighborhood of 550 liters of oxygen every single day.  If you tried drinking 550 liters of water in a day, you’d never leave the bathroom!  Pancake and Syrup Arranged Into a Happy FaceAt least not until the paramedics wheeled you out.

Right now you might be thinking that unabsorbed food sounds great, and if only your body would absorb less of it, you wouldn’t have those extra pounds around the waistline.  Unfortunately, caloric foods such as proteins, fats, and especially carbs are much easier to absorb than many calorie-free nutrients.  Deficiency in these can lead to grogginess, fatigue, depression, anxiety and poor health. This can happen even with the healthiest of diets.

 What Are The Causes of Poor Absorption?

 Various circumstances can lead to insufficient absorption, including illness, genetics, and especially gluten!

Gluten

One of the most common causes of poor absorption is gluten, particularly for those who have difficulty processing it.  Gluten can also cause damage to the small intestines and their lining, which reduces the absorption of nutrients, especially fats and fat-soluble vitamins (vitamins A, D, E, and K).

Infections

There are numerous intestinal infections caused by bacteria, viruses and parasites that can cause reduced nutrient absorption.  Many of them can damage your stomach or intestines, leading to more severe problems such as ulcers.

Chemical or Enzyme Imbalance

Your body can’t digest food without the aid of specialized enzymes and hydrochloric acid.  And you can’t absorb what you don’t digest.

Portion sizes

Your digestive system can only handle so much food at one time.  When you consume too much food at once, there’s a good chance it won’t sit in your gut long enough to be properly digested and absorbed.  A similar problem can come from not fully chewing your food.

Other Gastrointestinal  Disorders

Crohn’s disease, celiac disease, diabetes, lactose intolerance, bariatric surgery…  The list goes on and on.  There are far too many genetic conditions, auto-immune disorders, and intestinal injuries to list them all here.


There are many essential nutrients, including vitamins, minerals, amino acids, fats and more. ‘Essential’ means that your body doesn’t make them at all, or not in sufficient quantities for good health.  You need your diet to supply these, and poor absorption can cause deficiencies in these vital nutrients.  Deficiencies can lead to all of that grogginess, fatigue, depression, anxiety and poor health I mentioned earlier.

So What Can We Do About It?

Cut Out the Gluten

This is becoming easier to do every day as more and more gluten free options are made available. With 1 in every 20 people suffering from it, poor gluten tolerance is so common that losing the gluten should be one of the first fixes you try.

If you’re not sure how you’ll live without your morning bagel or that gluten loaded pizza crust, there’s good news!  Your doctor can test you for gluten sensitivity, and for a slew of other allergies that you weren’t even aware you had.

Probiotics

The best offense is a good defense!  You can protect your stomach and intestines from infection by loading up on good bacteria.  It’s common knowledge that lactobacillus and other probiotics help you to digest food, but they also help protect you from infection!  Bacterial infections need resources to survive.  These resources come from you and everything you eat.  By taking a healthy probiotic regularly, you’re giving yourself a defensive shield of healthy bacteria that will compete for resources with harmful pathogens that are trying to move into your body.

Pills lined up to look like a dinner plate, fork and knife.Pro Tips: Make sure you’re getting a quality probiotic.  Contrary to what marketing teams want you to believe, the sheer number of bacteria in a probiotic is not nearly as important as the variety included.  Look for probiotics that contain at least three or four of the following strains: L. acidophilus, B. longum, B. bifidum, L. fermentum & L. rhamnosus.

Also, pay attention to the expiration date and packaging.  Bacteria are living things, making them susceptible to light, humidity, temperature, oxidation and age.  There’s really no point in taking a gel caps filled with dead bacteria.

Cleanliness

Your best protection from bacteria, viruses and parasites is cleanliness.  You can avoid introducing any of these pathogens into your system by washing your hands with soap before you eat, prepare food or touch your face, lips or eyes.

Enzymes

Still having trouble?  Try taking digestive enzymes with your probiotics, or with meals.  If you notice an improvement, you may have found your problem!

Stomach Acid

An easy way to check your hydrochloric acid levels is to mix a teaspoon of baking soda with a glass of water and drink it. If it doesn’t make you burp, you may need to add orange juice to your shopping list.  That extra acidity could be just the thing you needed to get your stomach back on track.

If you suffer from frequent heartburn, then low acidity is probably not your issue.  Gluten is the more likely candidate, since it’s notorious for causing frequent and severe heartburn in those who are sensitive to it.  Man, for someone who loves pasta as much as I do, I’m being really harsh on gluten today.

Portion Control

Serving sizes vary from food to food, but they really shouldn’t be much bigger than the palm of your hand.  Watching your serving sizes is also an excellent way to shed a few extra pounds!  Spreading your daily intake out into smaller meals and snacks can help ensure proper absorption, increase your energy levels and maintain that sense of being satisfied throughout the day.

Chew Your Food

Digestion starts in the mouth!  Saliva contains enzymes that begin breaking food down before you’ve even swallowed.  You can see for yourself.  Try putting a small piece of (gluten optional) bread on your tongue and let it sit there for a moment.  It won’t be long before you notice a sweet taste.  This sweet taste is caused by the amylase in your saliva breaking the bread down into simple sugars.

Chewing your food properly breaks it down into smaller, easily digestible pieces while mixing it with these awesome enzymes.  The best part about thoroughly chewing is that not only do you get to enjoy the flavor for longer, the flavor also gets stronger while the food is breaking down.  It’s also easier to tell when you’re full when you eat slower.  So many benefits!  Chewing your food more thoroughly may be one of the best changes you’ve ever made to your life, and it’s so easy to do!

Pro tip:  Don’t drink while there’s still food in your mouth.  It dilutes your saliva!

Ask Your Healthcare Provider

Remember all those issues that were too many to list? Well, it doesn’t do any good to speculate about which ones you may or may not have.  And no health article, web doctor or over the phone consultation is going to tell you if you have any health issues of note.  Only your healthcare provider can do that for you!

Most Importantly

Use VitaMist Spray Vitamins! (Did anyone NOT see that one coming?)

Wow, It’s November Already

This year is going by so fast.  Halloween has come and gone, and Thanksgiving will be close at hand.  The Holiday Season will have arrived again.  Those two months of the year that will set the stage for next year.

(Those of you who have been part of our VitaMist family for many years will probably read this and feel “I heard all this before”.  But it’s SO  imperative that I reiterate this message for all of our new members and even for all of you, who have read this before.)

A lot of people use the Holidays as an excuse!  In fact, I have already started to hear those excuses this year and it seems as if I have heard more excuses than ever before.   I urge all of you not to let “The Holiday Season” be another excuse and ruin what you have been building with VitaMist over the past few months.

The Holidays are the time when we see more people than any other time of year. In some reports, I’ve seen it quoted that you will see up to 3 times more people than any other time. So Remember! This is when you can give the gift of health and hand out your business cards along with your holiday greetings, good wishes and smiles.

Please enjoy yourselves This Holiday Season,  But please, please, don’t allow all your hard work to be undone.  I urge every one of you, every single member of our family, to believe in yourselves and be everything you can be.  Rather than look for reasons why you can’t, please find reasons why you CAN!  This is one of the reasons that “DO IT” has become somewhat of the mantra for the leaders of VitaMist.

 

Take a moment to reflect on the poem that follows. 

“Happy Holidays!”

 

How to observe Thanksgiving

Count your blessing instead of your crosses;

Count your gains instead of your losses.

Count your joys instead of your woes;

Count your friends instead of your foes.

Count your smiles instead of your tears;

Count your courage instead of your fears.

Count your full years instead of your lean;

Count your kind deeds instead of your mean.

Count your health instead of your wealth;

Count on God instead of yourself.

 

~Author Unknown.~

 

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